tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post5180353394448829477..comments2023-05-16T13:55:16.309+02:00Comments on On Dragonfly Wings: paranoiathe dragonflyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00910969956758977269noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-37306273315680049432007-11-10T07:51:00.000+01:002007-11-10T07:51:00.000+01:00Babydoll, we all worry all the time. And it gets ...Babydoll, we all worry all the time. And it gets worse. As I've been posting for the last 10 days or so, in a few years, you've got to worry about how other kids treat them. It is even worse because you still blame yourself, it's still absolutely not your fault, and there's still not a darned thing you can do about it. Well, you can do a few things.<BR/><BR/>The point is, we all feel like terrible mothers when something is going on and we didn't notice. That's why we're not terrible mothers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-30690919077430721302007-11-09T20:07:00.000+01:002007-11-09T20:07:00.000+01:00how brave of you to share this, I know how hard it...how brave of you to share this, I know how hard it is for you. And look at all the love you've gotten in return. pretty cool, this bloggy community, huh?<BR/><BR/>(by the way, I have to say I'm a wee bit jealous at how many readers you have already! Took me a long time to be getting comments in the double digits!)painted maypolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06446625015003854710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-18267095879046380292007-11-09T19:39:00.000+01:002007-11-09T19:39:00.000+01:00You are definitely not a bad mother for not notici...You are definitely not a bad mother for not noticing. We all would have done the same thing.<BR/>Motherhood is tough and mommying the first time around is definitely the hardest thing any of us will ever do. You're doing a great job!<BR/>I for one am extremely impressed that you are "out and about" as much as you are and posting all these terrifically positive things on your blog---so early in the game. Your baby is still so young! I think I was sleeping and eating and barely seeing sunlight when I was at your phase of the game. You are doing awesomely well!Kristi Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15749922455225303462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-22372005738391936232007-11-09T14:09:00.000+01:002007-11-09T14:09:00.000+01:00Something very similar to this happened to my sist...Something very similar to this happened to my sister-in-law with her first baby. In fact, it finally took my stepmother <I>insisting</I> that she take the baby in to be weighed before SIL could even admit there was an issue. <BR/><BR/>Breastfeeding is, of course, great and all of that. But I can't help feeling that there must be some way to promote bf without making the moms who want to, but just <I>can't</I> feel like failures.niobehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10685766216611639434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-5174421149613105422007-11-09T13:51:00.000+01:002007-11-09T13:51:00.000+01:00Being a Mom is not an easy job and to be honest I ...Being a Mom is not an easy job and to be honest I dont think the paranoid thing ever goes away. Okay maybe slackens some but its always there. My oldest is 6 1/2 and if he snores differently at night I am bolt awake and next to his bed making sure he is okay. Same with Baby A who is 15 months. I have gotten better with other things but night time is always a hard one for me.3HappyHippieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11320202901313408946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-25883140736282421022007-11-09T13:02:00.000+01:002007-11-09T13:02:00.000+01:00I have had supply issues with all of mine. My 2nd ...I have had supply issues with all of mine. My 2nd was the only one that nursed enough to keep my milk in for more than 6 months (and I think that is because he would "marathon" nurse. It wasn't uncommon for him to nurse for 2-3 hours straight) With my 5 month old now I can only nurse her in the morning and then she gets bottles the second half of the day. It happens. You don't notice whether they are gaining or losing because you see them everyday. He sure does look happy, so you must be doing a lot right. (I LOVE the pic of him with all the stuffed animals)Valariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11778600453227616126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-92157111448853436212007-11-09T03:10:00.000+01:002007-11-09T03:10:00.000+01:00Aw, this touched me. Being a mother is such an all...Aw, this touched me. Being a mother is such an all-consuming job. You are neither a bad mother for not noticing or for being vigilant now. *smile* If it makes you feel in good company - we didn't notice that our newborn daughter had a 3 inch birthmark on the back of her right leg. For nearly three weeks. =)<BR/><BR/>Take care.Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15898415128748687415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-78279991351444804752007-11-09T02:40:00.000+01:002007-11-09T02:40:00.000+01:00oh sweetie, this makes me cry (I've had no sleep -...oh sweetie, this makes me cry (I've had no sleep - but still). Guh, we are so hard on ourselves over whether or not a baby will munch our boobs and grow aren't we?<BR/><BR/>Alex was 7 pounds, 2 ounces, 21 inches long and was so freaking skinny tiny that all of his clothes swam on him including the newborn diapers.<BR/><BR/>I absolutely understand how you wouldn't zoom in on him losing weight - they seem so tiny and fragile that going from tiny and fragile to tinier and fragile just doesn't really register.dawn224https://www.blogger.com/profile/12261307900362127378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-67557142546144275032007-11-09T01:00:00.000+01:002007-11-09T01:00:00.000+01:00You are doing a GREAT job. Motherhood can often ju...You are doing a GREAT job. Motherhood can often just be one big haze of gray, and we all just find our direction as best we can. Btw, you might google some herbal remedies for breast milk supply for your NEXT baby, because this experience with little mister doesn't mean your next one has to be the same!Jolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15511682180313702603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-14302844738753200142007-11-08T19:55:00.000+01:002007-11-08T19:55:00.000+01:00My bestest friend delivered triplets 4 years ago. ...My bestest friend delivered triplets 4 years ago. One child survived with multiple food allergies and now a diagnosis of autism. Jo's "paranoia" and persistance led to an early diagnosis of autism and persistant developmental delays that has gotten Miss Sophia therapy at home and in school much earlier than the average child. I ask you this- is it paranoia or just motherly instincts that rarely are wrong???amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02775497356720247278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-89197097994965327972007-11-08T19:17:00.000+01:002007-11-08T19:17:00.000+01:00I was very paranoid about my children not getting ...I was very paranoid about my children not getting enough to eat - and this in spite of the fact that they were really FAT for the first couple of months due to my overactive let-down (once they figured out how to control the flow better, they lost their Michelin-baby rolls). The paranoia goes deep - I still have an instinct to just SHOVE as much food into my children as I can.Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957626443087438904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4507806734569168871.post-5764338364817801132007-11-08T17:10:00.000+01:002007-11-08T17:10:00.000+01:00Hey, if you read my post to my boy (Christopher) a...Hey, if you read my post to my boy (Christopher) a few days ago, you know I was there with you. Except my boy lost even more weight. You know what, being a first time mommy is the hardest thing you'll ever do. Not because baby is actually that hard, but because of the overwhelming emotional roller coaster you are on. He lost a little bit of weight. It would not be noticeable unless you weighed him. You are NOT a bad mother for not noticing. You are a GREAT mother for taking the steps to make sure he has enough to eat, now that you know he had certain problems. <BR/><BR/>Motherhood is tough, girl! But most of it is brought on ourselves by ourselves. It's called guilt. And it.never.leaves.you.ever.<BR/><BR/>HeidiFamily Adventurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00093360285075029799noreply@blogger.com