Monday, April 7, 2008

deployed

Yup. The Sergeant is in Kuwait.

Friday night the Little Mister and I dropped him off...and now we're alone. I've talked to him a few times, and he's doing well (it's very warm there, in the 90s, and here at home we have a fresh four-ish inches of snow!). He misses us, and we miss him, but at least he has wireless internet so we can chat.

The Little Mister seems unaware, most of the time, that things have changed...but every time we hear someone in the apartment stairwell he looks expectantly toward the door. So even though he acts like his happy little self most of the time, he's still waiting for Daddy to come home.

*sniff*

As for me, busyness is my friend. I've done countless loads of laundry, washed piles of dishes, cleaned the bathroom, done some organizing here and there. I'm reading The Will of the Empress, listening to Abhorsen (Tim Curry is an amazing reader!), and watching episodes of M*A*S*H. I'm spending extra time cuddling (when he'll let me!) and playing with my Little Mister. In short, I'm doing everything possible to keep my mind so full of outside stimuli that it cannot think. At this point in time, thinking could lead to a bad place, so I'm avoiding it. I'm even wearing myself to exhaustion before I collapse into bed, so weary that I just fall asleep instead of being kept awake by my usually buzzing brain. I know this is not a permanent solution, but it's working for now, and I'll be better able to cope in a week or so.

I hope.

the flag we made for Daddy for his birthday
(yes, Saturday was the Sergeant's birthday. Such timing.)


chewing on the flag we made for Daddy :)

a quick family picture, just before we said goodbye...


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I can hardly believe it, but this is my 99th post!! To celebrate my 100th post, and to cheer myself up, I thought of a fun giveaway. Woo hoo! I'm not gonna tell you now - don't want to spoil the surprise! - but trust me, it's good. ;) I'll be back in a few days with number 100!

42 comments:

  1. I'm sorry he's gone but at least now you can look forward to him coming home!

    Hopefully the time will pass quickly for you!

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  2. You know that all three of you are in our thoughts down this way. I was stress-baking last week because I was so sad for you (I froze a small batch of chicken enchiladas for you if you want them - I'd be happy to drive them up to you!).

    I know that nothing makes this easy; it never is. But, lean on anyone and everyone who offers help and distraction. Especially lean on the distraction of raising that charming and gorgeous little boy! Heck, keep an eye on your email, I may have a fun distraction opportunity coming your way VERY soon....

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  3. Oh I remeber those days all too well! My hubby retired in Sept. 2004 & we are still adjusting to 'civilian life'. Please know I'll be thinking about you & praying that time flies by for you and that you hubby will be home safe & sound in no time!

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  4. So sorry you have to be apart. I hope it goes well and quickly.

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  5. I'm sending you lots and lots and lots of virtual hugs right now. Can you feel them????

    Hang in there, my friend. You and the little Mister!

    Do you have any idea how long he'll be away for?

    Heidi

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  6. Oh Dragonfly, I know you have been dreading this. I am proud of you for keeping busy and not sinking into a blob of depression, as I have been known to do. I will be praying for all of you. I hope the time passes quickly.

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  7. Well that sucks! You know it's coming but that doesn't make it any easier. I hope the time passes quickly for you.

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  8. You can do it, sister! The worst part about my hubby's deployment was the dreading it before it happened and maybe the first day or two after he left. Then you get into a routine and you just put one foot in front of the other and keep going!

    My hubby left in November (when Sumo Baby was 4 months old) and won't return until next February when the baby will be 19 months. But it's better that it happens now than when he's older and more upset about it, right? Trust me, your little guy will keep you busy enough!

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  9. I'm sorry you have this separation...I hope time passes, and I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts.

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  10. Oh Mama... So sorry to hear this. But Kuwait has to be less scary than say Iraq? So at least you can know he's going to be coming home safe and sound... And you got some beautiful pictures before he left!

    Hang in there ~ I'll be thinking about you!

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  11. I hope the time passes quickly for you and little Mister. The silver lining could be that your house probably will never be cleaner :) Take care of yourself :)

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  12. Heidi: right now, it's supposed to be 15 months. But it depends on congress, they're trying to get it dropped back to 12. That would be nice. :)

    Amy Y: He's only in Kuwait for the last minute training and such before going to Iraq. *sigh*

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  13. And to everyone: thank you for your well-wishes! We'll all be okay, it's just rough right now..

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  14. Oh Dragonfly- how awful... We are thinking of you and praying for the Seargant.

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  15. My heart goes out to you, and I'm sending good thoughts. Take care of Little Mister, and take care of yourself. I hope you have some good friends close by?

    I love the flag. Was he able to take it with him?

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  16. that flag is adorable- such a good idea! aww, it must be so hard to be a single parent for a while- but imagine what it was like in the days before the internet!

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  17. jennifer h: Yes, he took the flag with him. I was glad to find the plastic frame. :)

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  18. I'm sorry your hubby had to leave - it must be very hard. I too would stay busy - that does help. Cute flag you all made for his birthday - cute. Congrats on your 100 posts - WOO HOO!

    TAke care and I'll keep your hubby and you guys in my prayers. Kellan

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  19. I hope it is a easy deployment for both of you, that you stay busy (in a happy good way) so time seems to pass quickly. Mostly thank you for supporting your husband and his job in the military - it wouldn't be possible without your support.

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  20. We'll be thinking of you guys and I hope the time passes quickly for you. Can't wait for the giveaway.

    On a side note, thanks for your comments about Tig. I'm getting better about it (not so many tears at least).

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  21. I'm sorry you have to be apart! Keep yourself as busy as possible, hopefully it will make the time go by quicker until he's home again. :O)

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  22. Oh, sorry. The timing is never good. The last deployment my husband arrived in Kuwait on his birthday. You already know, but it will be easier in a week or so. Are there any Mops groups in your area? They are an international organization so there could be. You can go to Mops.org to find one. If not, you should start one! That will definitly be something to occupy your mind and time!

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  23. I don't know what to say except that sucks. I hope he is home quickly and that time passes easily. I would go crazy. You are a strong woman.

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  24. Hang in there, girl. And keep blogging.

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  25. hang in there, your a strong mama you and the little mister will be a ok. or he might lead a coup and take over the place! either or! : )

    I love love love the hand print flag you made. I am going to make a note of that to add to the craft pile to make for flyboy. fantastic idea.

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  26. I'm sorry to hear he's gone. I've been so out of the loop the past couple weeks I didn't realize this was fast approaching for you :( Gee can I relate to all the "business". I was the same way when J was there....Each day that passes is another day closer to having him back home! You're in my thoughts,

    ~Keri

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  27. I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how difficult it must be. I think keeping busy is a great idea for now. You are amazing!
    HUGS!!!

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  28. I just said a prayer for all of you. We'll be here if you need us.

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  29. you {hugs}

    this is hard, huh? a friend of ours was just deployed the other day as well and his wife is feeling much the same way.

    take care, and lean on us for strength.

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  30. Oh, goodness. I'm sorry he had to go. It sounds like you are doing really, amazingly well. Squeeze that little man as much as he'll let you! I'll keep all of you in my thoughts. And we're here for you -- blog away, about anything and everything!

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  31. Oh, Dragonfly, I'm sorry. What a huge sacrifice. I hope it goes by quickly.

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  32. What you describe -- intentionally making yourself so tired that you can't think -- is something that helped me in the past when I wanted to keep my thoughts in check.

    I'm thinking of you and hoping this difficult time goes by as easily as possible.

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  33. I can only imagine how difficult this is for you. I'm amazed at the cheerful comments made by other military wives. You all are so strong. You rock! I'll be thinking of you and hoping that the next 12-15 months go by fast and easy.

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  34. I love the photo of the 3 of you- just wish it was taken on a different occasion. So sorry that you are apart.

    We'll expect you to be blogging to vent, to share, to celebrate, and especially to look for support- because YOU WILL GET IT! :)

    I'll be thinking about you, Dragonfly~

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  35. What a great flag!

    Will you stay in Germany? Would it be easier to head home to America?

    I'm keeping you in my thoughts -- even you seem to be immune to the google reader settings. I can't subscribe to you! Why is that?

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  36. I love that flag. I'm going to give the idea to my daughter-in-law. My oldest son is in Iraq right now.

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  37. Your mommy is very good to the new lady with the twins. That is what makes military life, people helping people.

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  38. All my best to you.

    THAT FLAG IS THE BEST EVER!!!! Seriously - love it!

    Hoping time passes quickly. You'll be in my thoughts, friend.

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